Conversation magic: Two most important conversation techniques (Part 1)

"That's interesting!" Photo by alvesgaspar

“That’s interesting!” Photo by Alvesgaspar

(This posting includes a handout which you are welcome to use with your students.)

Making conversation magic happen

After a colleague used these techniques, she told me with wonder in her eyes, “I saw magic happen in my class today.  My students suddenly became very animated, their voiced rose, and they were laughing!” 

Then she wondered if it was some kind of set up.  In other words, by using these techniques, students have no choice but to feel like someone is interested in what they are saying.

In a sense, she is right.  But isn’t that what we hope our students will experience? These are the two techniques:

1) Use rejoinders to show that they understand what the other has said by giving understanding responses.

2) Ask follow-up questions to maintain the conversation and to show interest in each other..

When someone uses these in a conversation, their interlocutor can’t help but feel like someone thinks they are interesting to talk to.

Use rejoinders and make your interlocutor feel good.

The first activity involves active listening in which students show that they are actually listening to their partner and understand what their partner has said.  It’s called “Using Rejoinders.”

Rejoinders can be categorized as showing that you are:

  • interested– “I see.” “That’s nice.” “Oh, yeah.”
  • happy– “That’s great!” “Terrific!” “Cool!” “Wonderful!”
  • sad– “That’s too bad.” “I’m sorry to hear that.” “Oh, no!”
  • surprised–”You’re kidding!” “I can’t believe it!” “Oh, really! /Oh, really?”

  Here is the link to the complete activity.  rejoinders-from-cs-pdf

Here is a summary of the set of step-by-step exercises in the activity that lead them to be able to used rejoinders naturally in any conversation.

Pre-activity:
The instructor introduces the concept of rejoinders and explains how helpful they are in a conversation.  See this link for example of what the instructor can say:  http://www.prolinguaassociates.com/Conversation_Strategies/index.html

Introductory Exercise:
To see how rejoinders are used in conversations, students interact with some examples.  I.e., they don’t just mindlessly read some examples.

Pair work:
In pairs, students work on a two-way task (1) in which they have different information and complete the task by not looking at each other’s page.

            Steps 1 & 2 are designed in a way that gets students to use a variety of rejoinders.

           Step 3  is more free form in which students apply what they learned in Steps 1 & 2.  They start by customizing some of the statements to their own personal lives.  When they read these statements, they seem to enjoy hear the type of reaction they get.  Also, if their partner responds with a “wrong” rejoinder, they know that there probably was a communication breakdown.

Once students have completed this set of exercises, instructors are amazed at how much students apply this in future conversation activities and in conversational activities outside the class.

READ MORE about Technique 2: Follow-up Questions Conversation magic: Two most important techniques. (Part 2)

For lower-level students, each type of rejoinder is practice individually; see Basic Conversation Strategies by David & Peggy Kehe (Pro Lingua). http://www.prolinguaassociates.com/Basic_Conversation_Strategies/index.html

For advanced-level students, rejoinders are review together with follow-up questions in Discussion Strategies by David & Peggy Kehe (Pro Lingua). http://www.prolinguaassociates.com/Pages/dsbook.html

(1) For more information about the benefits of two-way tasks, see Conversation class: Necessary ingredients for successful pair work (from research)

David Kehe

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